By Tshegofatso Senne The concept of self-pleasure is often spoken about as something that only horny adolescent boys do. You know how it goes, their wet dreams are made public knowledge as running jokes in most coming-of-age (pardon the pun) stories. For girls, it’s a wonder if masturbation is even brought up. When it is, it’s thought of as something one only does when they’re single and lonely. If you’re non-binary or gender non-conforming, masturbation isn’t even something people speak about in relation to you.  While many of us have grown out of this thinking, there are a lot more...

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Even if you consider your sex life to be in pretty good shape, you should consider the advantages of introducing a personal lubricant. Quickies can actually be quick, long time love-making smooth, and you and your partner will avoid any soreness that you might have otherwise experienced from all the friction. Masturbation and blowjobs can take on a different and tasty spin nudge nudge... Here’s the lowdown on different types of lube (from water-based lubricants to silicone-based lubricants), things to be mindful of..  For starters, virtually all lubes on the market today fall into one of three categories — water,...

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By Tshegofatso Senne (Reposted with permission from www.holaaafrica.org)The first time I used a toy with a partner was an interesting time. He decided to name my cute little yellow clitoral vibrator ‘Stranger’, not exactly a good sign but we sure had amazing times. Him, Stranger and I. Stranger went on to please me (and other partners) for months to come. Pun intended. I’ve since been given the pleasure of exploring and being pleasured by so many types of toys that when someone asks me which to try first I probably wouldn’t have an answer. What I do have, is some things...

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It’s incredibly common for women to feel apprehensive about anal sex, and we don’t blame them. Sex expert , Alicia Sinclair, founder and mastermind behind b-Vibe gives the ultimate 101 on anal play for women. Sex educators regularly hear women share their story of first time anal. Generally, the story is something along the lines of feeling pressured into it by a boyfriend/ husband. Then with little education or preparation- and perhaps a few drinks to help battle the nervousness- a woman will allow her man to put his penis in her butt. Sadly, this most likely hurts (a lot) and then...

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Ladies, what a time to be alive. Never in course of history have women been more “on top” and in charge. We are opening up about what works for us and what simply doesn’t and what we will and will not put up with – from our spouses, our colleagues, our leaders and, of course, the media. Women are putting our foot forward in just about everything from sports to business, entertainment, medicine and even in self-pleasure. That’s right, 2017 saw the year of “#vaginaomics”, a bustling period where women have been leading the way in innovative, practical and aesthetically pleasing...

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